When I was a little girl, I remember one of my aunts saying that I was 10-going-on-30. It was true and it stuck.
Feeling older than my age and certainly feeling out of place among my peers is something I’ve had going for me for a long time. Two decades apparently. But I guess now, I’m the age I’ve always felt. It’s pretty cool.
No “over the hill” cards or “before I turn 30” bucket lists for me. I’m thrilled to be 30. And for the first time in years, I’m thrilled it’s my birthday (usually I’m ambivalent). So in celebration of the last three decades of life, I’ve got a list of 30 lessons I’ve learned in that time.
- It takes every day of your life to make you who you are, some times especially the bad days. All of them are important.
- You never know what someone will say to you (or the you will say to them) that will leave a lasting impact; choose your words carefully.
- Bacon is spectacular.
- When in doubt add butter.
- Beans are disgusting (still).
- Try new foods and especially foods you used to hate – you may eventually love them (ex: brussels sprouts).
- Sing. Sing often.
- Dance at every opportunity.
- You will never regret doing the right thing.
- People who make you feel crappy about yourself are not really your friends, and should be avoided.
- Take a shower if you need an idea. (I get my best ideas in the shower.)
- If you wear a skirt or a dress, just put on a slip. It won’t kill you and it will probably save you some embarrassment.
- Question “the authority.” Who gave “the authority” that authority any way? And if they really are “the authority” they’ll be able to back it up.
- Read. A lot. Basically every thing.
- But don’t believe every thing you read. It’s called fiction for a reason.
- Red lipstick and nail polish have a remarkable power to influence on one’s confidence.
- Every thing typically works out just fine. And if it doesn’t work out, you can recover.
- Just because you can be self-sufficient, doesn’t mean you don’t need others.
- Apologies should be sincere, meaningful and used appropriately or not at all.
- You can always use another friend.
- Being selective and discerning is not being judgey – it’s being wise.
- Having a non-human depend on you makes you a better person; get a dog (or a cat if you must).
- Sleep. It’s so good for you.
- You get what you pay for; know what is worthy of your investment.
- You don’t have to like what everyone else likes.
- Do your best.
- Taking care of your health (physical, mental and emotional) is important work and should start early in life. Don’t wait ’til you’re 30 to be responsible with yourself.
- People’s estimations of you say more about them than it does about you.
- Poise and class are sadly underrated and rare; exercise both.
- Chocolate and coffee make the world a lovelier place.
There is so much more I could list and detail. But 30 is plenty. So with that wisdom shared, the last thing for me to send out to the universe today is just lots of joy and love.